The Infatuation Phase is the name given by modern psychiatry to the first 6 months of a relationship between lovers.

There is a fundamental difference in views on cause and effect between western science and eastern mysticism.

Western science and psychiatry views the experience of new lovers as the release of massive doses of PEA, dopamine, and norepinephrine and say this CAUSES the sensation of euphoric love which become associated with the other person. Likewise, on strong sexual desire between lovers,  western medicine says that strong libidos are CAUSED by high testosterone levels rather than anything more profound. While some segments of the psychiatric community recognises love as the key component to long term relationships they view the early stage ecstasy of romantic love in strongly chemical and biological terms.

Eastern mysticism says that the vibrations of life begin in our shared soul. Love is the name we have given to the fabric of our soul. It is the pure pulse before the turbulence that creates the complex patterns of our universe and lives. These vibrations emanate out into our causal, emotional, and mental bodies and LASTLY to our physical bodies. They would say that love, is not the effect, it is the cause of the production of PEA, dopamine,and norepinephrine on the physical plane, and that a high libido causes, or perhaps more accurately, is articulated on the physical/chemical plane by higher testosterone being generated.

Mystics’ teach that the heart is the hub of all places, to go there and explore. When you are established in your heart, whether alone in a spiritual quest or with a lover, you are ‘in love’, with all the emotional and physical consequences described by romantic poets. The great poet mystics like Rumi and Hafiz were infatuated, and utterly intoxicated, drunk on love with God. This feeling did not wane after 6 months as mother nature’s chemical cocktail wore off, because they remained established in their hearts. Infatuation is a very spiritual state and it only wanes when are awareness drifts away from our heart, not when some hormone production stalls.

When we are in our heart we see our lover for who she truly is, a goddess briefly playing the role of a limited human being. She is beautiful beyond description and we drink her in like nectar, and worship her. Later, people get distracted, leave their heart, then start to see their lover not as a goddess, but someone with numerous imperfections. They start to mistake the cloak for the person wearing it. To remain established in your heart you have to perceive yourself also for the divine beautiful being you are. This is not a case of putting a woman up on a pedestal. You have to be up there with her.

Many mystics were also masters of kundalini yoga. It is no coincidence that the kundalini resides in the sexual centres of the body. Sexual energy is the physical expression of kundalini energy in our lives. When the kundalini energy is pulsing, as a man, you do see the magnificent beauty of every women, however old or whatever her physical forms. It is extraordinarily powerful. To dismiss it as an accidental overproduction of testosterone is to miss the greatest experience available to a human being. To suggest it is fleeting, couldn’t be further from the truth when infact it is eternal and profound.